The most common question I get asked is “Why did I even start My Bath Basket in the first place?” What made me think “You know what?! A career as a self care coach is what I want to do!” And if I were to answer you with “I just woke up one day and decided to do it!” Well… that wouldn’t be a very fun read.
Truthfully, this was a journey. Years of learning and reconnecting with my body, mind and spirituality. This journey consists of ups and downs, restarting from scratch and finding a new person. This journey came with tears, loneliness and misunderstanding; with lots and lots of frustration and bottled up anger that needed releasing.
They say that transformation happens most when a life changing event forces you to change. I happen to agree only because this has been my experience. The reason I started this personal journey was because I had lost someone. After 5 years and halfway through planning a wedding, my fiancé and I ended things. Honestly, I didn’t know if I was devastated, relieved or both. I just knew that I had lost a best friend, a life partner and a family.
I remember one day my mom asked me “what is one thing you really wanted to do but couldn’t during your relationship for whatever reason?” That’s when I told her about wanting to go to the gym, get healthy and feel good about myself.
Little did I know, that was the beginning of an amazing journey!
It wasn’t until years later that I even realized…I was on a self healing journey. See, after the end of my relationship, I was in foreign territory; for the first time, I was on my own. So I took this time to discover myself away from parents, boyfriends and friends and what I found was so much bigger than what I thought I would find.
I used to spend most of my life caring for others and putting their needs ahead of my own. I was making sacrifices, walking on eggshells because I believed if I didn’t follow through then I was the problem. If the other person was mad it was because of something I said or did to upset them.
That precious time away became a type of self preservation. I no longer wanted drama, unnecessary conflict, and to feel blamed for everyone’s problems. This self preservation that I built made me realize I didn’t follow through on my own personal standards. Growing up, my grandparents used to tell me to look out for number 1, it wasn’t until this time did I truly understand those words.
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8 years later, I’m still living this great journey! My self-care and self healing baths are a lifestyle. Although I have learned many things along the way, I’m still learning! Personal growth is the biggest self worth you can give yourself and that’s why I started My Bath Basket… Every busy mom deserves the same.